This Simple Astrological Practice Will Have Your Ex Wanting You Back (So You Can Dump Them… or Keep Them There)
Try this powerful cosmic trick to pull them back when you want.
Breakups are hard.
Not just because of what was said, or left unsaid, but because deep down…
There’s usually still something left hanging.
For some, it’s love, the kind that feels unfinished, still full of possibility but totally confusing.
For others? It’s closure. Not the kind where you cry into your pillow and “move on,” but where you see them return and this time, you decide how it ends.
Do you keep them, and rebuild from a place of strength? Or do you close the door firmly, with no regrets, because now you hold the power?
Whichever side of the coin you fall on, the truth is the same; You don’t want to chase.
And you can make that happen.
Not through begging. Not through random social media posts.
But by working with something much older (and smarter) than text messages, the wisdom of the stars.
How Does the Cosmic Pull Really Works
In Vedic astrology, love energy doesn’t beg or force. It attracts.
There are two silent players in this game: Venus and the Moon.
- Venus rules desire, attraction, and love. It’s what makes them remember how good things were with you.
- The Moon rules emotions and memories. It’s what makes them miss your presence in ways they don’t even fully understand.
When these two are balanced inside you, something magical happens. You stop sending “I miss you, please come back” energy. And start radiating “I’m whole, and you’ll feel that absence.”
People naturally gravitate toward peace, confidence, and familiarity. When you align your Venus and Moon energy, they feel you on a deeper, quieter level. Not as the person who’s hurting… but as the person they now realize they miss.
How To Use This Energy Shift To Pull Them Back (In A Way They Can’t Ignore)
This is where most get it wrong.
They skip the internal work and jump straight into “How do I get them to notice me?”
They try everything outside of themselves.
- Posting carefully crafted selfies to look “unbothered.”
- Showing up at the right places hoping to bump into them.
- Using friends to drop hints.
- Ignoring them to make them curious.
But deep down, all of that is noise.
And noise doesn’t pull someone back into your life. In fact? It often pushes them further away.
What pulls them back, almost like a silent, invisible thread is energy alignment.
I’m talking about shifting your own emotional and attraction frequencies so deeply… that they feel it, without even understanding why.
So how do you do it?
It starts with balancing your Moon and Venus energy inside yourself. Let’s break this down step by step.
1. Heal and Settle Your Emotional Energy (Moon Work)
The Moon is your emotional core.
When it’s messy and stormy inside you (pain, anger, desperation)… people naturally sense that and keep away because of the energy you give off outside.
When it’s calm, soft, and steady… people feel safe to return.
So the first step is emotional clearing. You must give yourself the space to process, really process, everything you feel.
Cry if you need to.
Write them letters (that you don’t send). You can tear them or burn them but get it out of your head.
Sit quietly with the discomfort instead of distracting yourself.
Because until you clear the old emotional clutter, there’s no space for a healthy reconnection. They will subconsciously sense chaos… instead of comfort.
You have to become at peace again with yourself.
2. Reignite Your Personal Magnetism (Venus Work)
Once your Moon (emotions) are settled, it’s time to turn your Venus back on. This is the energy that makes people drawn to you like a magnet. Not because you beg for their attention… but because you remind them what made you irresistible in the first place.
When was the last time you felt genuinely radiant?
- When you laughed easily.
- When you did things that made you happy.
- When your focus wasn’t on winning anyone back, but on living fully.
This is what you must get back to. Go and reclaim your joy. Dress in ways that make you feel confident. Say yes to plans that excite you. Practice self-love that is visible, not hidden.
Because Venus is beauty, pleasure, and worth. And when you radiate that worth again… they will notice. Even in silence. Even from far away.
3. The Open Window Effect
A lot of people fail here.
When someone leaves, there is something you need to know. They didn’t just walk away from you. They walked away from the version of themselves they were with you.
That version might have felt trapped, misunderstood, bored, pressured… whatever it was, it wasn’t working.
So what they DON’T want right now is to be dragged back into that old energy.
Bringing up memories, texting like nothing happened, or being “extra nice” just reminds them why they left.
What works is simple and powerful. You open the window without pushing or forcefully pulling. You leave just enough space for curiosity to sneak in.
You quietly upgrade yourself.
- You focus on your peace.
- You look good and take care of yourself not to show off, but because you’re growing.
- You become more grounded and emotionally steady.
And without saying a word, they notice and start to wonder.
“Why do you seem different?”
“Why do you feel lighter now that I’m gone?”
“Did I leave too soon?”
That’s the power of the Open Window Effect. You don’t beg for them back. You live well enough that they wonder if they made a mistake.
And curiosity? Is what gets them to knock on the door again.
To end this, there are only three paths this process can take and all of them lead to your win.
Maybe they come back because they missed the way you made them feel. They sense the changes in you. And suddenly, they want another chance… this time, seeing you through brand new eyes.
Or maybe they come back, but you’ve grown so much that you’re the one who realizes they no longer fit. You hold the power now, to choose whether they stay or go.
And then, there’s the third way, the one where they don’t come back at all. But even so? That’s not a loss. Because when they hear about you, or see you, they feel the shift in the smallest ways. And if you were NOT the problem, somewhere deep down, they’ll know…
“That’s the person I could have had.”