The Truth About What Men (and Women) Really Want in Love
Break the myth and learn exactly what makes both men and women crave love and commitment.
Love feels complicated these days.
One moment, they’re texting you every morning like you’re the first thing on their mind.
Next moment? Cold. Distant. Unreachable.
You’re left thinking: “What do they even want? Why can’t they just be clear?”
Sound familiar?
You’re not crazy for wondering. You’re not “too much” for wanting answers. You’re simply human… craving the connection that actually feels real.
And here’s what most people don’t realize:
what men truly need but rarely express… and what women deeply desire but often hide beneath the surface.
This isn’t about who texts first, who pays for dinner, or who says “I love you” more often.
It’s about what makes people feel safe enough to love fully, stay devoted, and show up for you every single day, not just when it’s easy.
What Men Really Want (Even If They Won’t Say It)
There’s a myth that men are commitment-phobic or afraid of deep emotional connection. It’s false. Completely false.
Men crave love deeply. They just often crave it differently.
A lot of people make assumptions. They say things like, “Oh, all men care about is sex, food, and respect.” Or, “As long as you feed his stomach and stroke his ego, he’s happy.” Those things may bring momentary satisfaction. But those are surface-level desires.
What about the things that go deeper?
What about the cravings that keep him up at night, the ones he doesn’t say out loud, even to his closest friends?
When you strip away the noise, the casual wants, the playful thrills, what does a man truly long for in love?
Only 3 things. And they may not be what you’re expecting.
1. Peace
Think about this carefully. You might assume a man’s biggest desire is money, success, or power. You may also think he wants excitement or adventure.
And while many men do enjoy those things, none of them come close to what he truly wants at his core.
Because what is money when his mind is restless? What is adventure when his heart is heavy? And what is success if he comes home and feels like he’s walking into more chaos?
A man’s true craving, the one he often can’t even verbalize is peace.
He wants to come home, not to a house, but to a person. Someone who makes the world quieter. Someone who soothes his edges.
After dealing with the stress of work, expectations, and the pressures of being “strong,” he wants to drop the armor. And take off the mask he wears all day without judgment, without conflict, without noise.
He doesn’t want more problems to solve or more chaos to untangle, he wants to feel like he has finally arrived at his soft place to land where your energy is calm, your presence is grounding, and you are gentle with his tired soul.
That is peace. And it is priceless to him.
2. Admiration
There’s something that many women miss, admiration is not equal to stroking his ego, it is making him feel seen. Don’t think a man doesn’t need a compliment because he’s good at what he does.
Because men, even the strongest ones, constantly question themselves deep inside.
Am I good enough?
Am I doing enough?
Am I valuable?
They don’t always say this out loud. They wear confidence like a shield. But inside? They ache to feel appreciated and respected by the woman they love most.
When you admire him, sincerely and deeply, everything changes.
Noticing how hard he works. Appreciating how he shows up, even when it’s difficult and respecting the quiet things he does that no one else sees.
When you make a man feel like a hero in your life, not a puppet, not a paycheck, but an actual man, he locks in. Emotionally, spiritually, and physically, he chooses you without question.
Why? Because you feed something that the world may forget to, you remind him that he is enough.
3. Loyalty
He’s never going to say this out loud to you but he’s scared.
Scared of being abandoned when things aren’t easy.
Scared of being replaced when he hits a low point.
Scared of opening up, only to watch you walk away when life isn’t perfect.
Every man, no matter how confident, carries this hidden fear which is why loyalty is everything to them. Not just words like “I’m loyal” or sweet talk during the good times.
But proof. Proof that you’re there when the storm hits. That you’re steady when life gets messy. That he doesn’t have to keep searching, because with you, he’s safe.
Loyalty is about choosing him, again and again, especially when the shine wears off and reality sets in.
And when he feels this, he feels safe enough to relax, lean in and bond on a level that is deep, lasting, and immovable because he knows he’s finally home.
What Women Really Want (And Often Don’t Know How to Ask For)
Women get painted with the wrong brush all the time.
“She wants money.”
“She wants attention.”
“She wants drama.”
Wrong.
Wait… “Did you say she wants money!?” Wait until you see what shows up in her stars.
1. Emotional Security.
Yes, she wants to feel safe but not just physically. She wants to feel safe in her heart enough to be herself without fear.
She doesn’t want to constantly wonder if she’s “too much” or if she’s being overly sensitive. She wants to share her wildest dreams, darkest fears, and softest thoughts without hearing, “You’re overthinking” or “Relax.”
She wants to be seen. Not for her looks alone nor for what she does for you. But for who she truly is, raw, imperfect, and real.
She wants to be held. Not always physically, but emotionally. Held in kindness, in patience and acceptance.
When you create this emotional safety net for a woman, magic happens. She lets down her guard and stops questioning her worth.
She becomes softer, warmer, and more radiant than ever before. And for some reason, she starts to like pink more even if she was not a fan before!
2. Consistency
This is non-negotiable.
No woman wants love that feels like a guessing game. She doesn’t want to wonder, “When will he call me?” or “Is he still into me?”
She wants love that is steady and reliable. She doesn’t want to have to chase you or worse find you in the next skirt around.
Inconsistency breeds insecurity. When a man disappears, becomes cold, or pulls back without explanation, a woman’s mind fills in the gaps with lots of unanswered questions.
But when you show up every day, in small and big ways she relaxes. When you’re steady with your affection, honest with your words, and clear with your intentions, she stops wondering.
She starts trusting.
3. Presence
You know what hurts a woman the most?
No, it’s not the harsh words or arguments. It’s being invisible.
I mean she’s sitting across from you making plans for you both, excited to be with you while you scroll on your phone?
Or talking to you while you half-listen with your mind somewhere else. That feeling that your attention is ALWAYS divided.
Women don’t want you for your money, your status, or your distractions because they can attain these things themselves (bonus points if you have them.)
They want to feel like when you’re with them, they are the only thing in the world that matters at that moment.
This is where true intimacy is built, the quiet moments where she feels, “He’s really here with me.”
And in that space of being seen, heard, and valued… She will love you in ways that are rare, deep, and true.
Where Most Love Fails (And Why Astrology Fixes It)
Things might get a little tricky here. Men and women are NOT opposites. They are mirrors… but tuned into different frequencies.
We often think that most relationships break because of big fights or betrayal but the not so obvious but dangerous truth is that they die from quiet misunderstanding.
You show love the way YOU want to receive it. They show love the way THEY want to receive it.
But when those styles don’t match… both sides start feeling unloved. Vedic Astrology solves this disconnect. Because nothing gives you more clarity than your Venus and Mars placements.
Your Venus shows what makes you feel loved. Your Mars shows how you go after love and express desire.
When your Venus + Mars don’t align well with your partner’s… frustration brews.
So, what’s the real secret?
If you want love that lasts, stop winging it.
Stop thinking “chemistry” will magically solve deep incompatibilities. Stop hoping someone will eventually love you in the way you need, without you ever explaining how.
Learn your chart. Learn theirs. Use Vedic Astrology to understand the emotional depth you both carry but make sure you consult with them as well.
The stars can only guide but your partner is the one who will accurately tell you how they want to be loved.
When you do, you stop settling for love that feels “almost good enough.” You create love that feels like home.
And that, right there, is what both men and women truly crave.